步步认真地看了每位在外国的MM发的帖，所谓的洋人男朋友并不全都是一件好事。你首先要认清你引以为豪的洋人男朋友是真心爱你，还是只想找个不知天高地厚的中国女孩。

　　you can say it like,"just wanna find some cheap Chinese chick to f.u.c.k up with"

　　这样说是有点难听，但的确是事实，我现在先把我同学和kiwi BF的经历告诉大家，我觉得她真的很悲惨。

　　kiwi是新西兰白人的称呼，步步曾经去过美国去参加高中生羽毛球比赛，我觉得外国都差不多，没什么不一样的。

　　Amy是步步的学姐，她的语言天赋真得很好，她在国内读完高中，然后到奥克兰大学读bachelor,她经常跟步步说在新西兰的中国男生真得很没出息（步步很同意，因为出国渡金的人一般都是家里有点钱，只会吃喝玩乐的纨绔子弟。他们一般开名车，身边在做一个只会打扮得花枝招展且只会坐车的无聊女人。做这种人的女朋友，活的一点都没有自尊）。也许久而久之，对外国中国男孩子的厌恶变成了对外国男孩子的喜欢

　　有一天晚上她去Pub跳舞，，Amy一边跳一边喝酒，后来他越来越头晕，dance pool里的灯光让她睁不开眼睛，她眼前一黑，栽倒在一个人的怀里，她当时看不见，只觉得是中国男人不可能有的强有力的perfect arm and 6 pack（有外国男朋友的中国MM应该知道，外国男孩子要比中国男孩子壮的多，不是胖，是步步都很欣赏的健美），然后那个男孩子带她回家，发生了one nite stand, Amy就认识一个叫Josh的洋人男孩子。

　　还算她运气好，Josh 没有在发生关系后就dump her.

　　她们搬到一起住，和另外一 kiwi couple一起住。快乐的相处了半年，Amy正在幻想未来的时候突然发生了她没有想到的事，也许是她不敢想的事。Josh的同事Amelia（鬼妹）对他表示好感，外国人超开放，听AMY说他们当天晚上就在Amelia家发生了关系。 3天之后Amelia竟然毫不客气的搬来和Josh一起住。Josh在新女友搬来之前跟Amy说，"we had a happy time together, but do you know how pressure I have to take when I hang out with my friend.A guy said I am ****ing with a Chinese little *****."然后又补充了一句，"I loved u, but can't see the future togther". Amy很想哭，但是她告诉自己不值得为这种男人哭，她给我打电话说想去兜风。步步和她开她的红色小跑车一起去Roatuora泡温泉，we asked for a private pool,. When it started to get pretty steamy in the small delicate room decorated in Maori style. I could tell her eyes were pretty red. 我跟她说想哭就哭吧，反正蒸汽多，你哭我还以为你太热地说。其实中国MM哭还是很吓人的，当时应该隔壁的人都能听到地说

　　我叫Amy不要在和josh住一起了，搬过来和步步一起住，她说不要，她知道我要准备CFA的考试，她自己又要读书又要打工，现在搬家的话又要找房子浪费时间，她就没有时间复习奥大的考试。步步很佩服她能在Josh的房子住两个星期, Amy told me she could hear josh and Amelia making love incredibly loud every nite and sometimes they were screaming when reaching the orgasm(climax). That's absolutely disgusting.

　　Amy跟我说分手对一个女人也有好处，She got average A on that semester and was eligible to apply for honor for post gra.

　　女人痛过就会变坚强，真的是很有道理

　　讲了很多我朋友的冬冬，步步现在在洋人超市打工，new world bakery department.

　　A kiwi guy from Grocery dep. came to talk to me and told me when he saw me at the first sight he just felt the chemistry between us.I found him so funny and decided to give it a go.He's a guys of 26 or 27 years old, and he's pretty friendly to Chinese unlike other kiwis. We went out for movie and dinner for a couple of times and he told me his parents seperated when he was just a little child. I told him the story of Amy and then he told me the "josh guy" was a psycho and competely idiot.We had a lot of backbite about "josh" and he told me he could beat him up it I want. I've having dinner with his Mom, and I reckon she's a lovely old lady. However, I am sitll not felling rite!

　　Something just not right!

　　I was feeling weird when I hang out with his friend and I found everyone was looking at me just like I have done something pretty ****y.Some guys even asked me if I am very naughty about something or not! I am not a ****y girl and I found it just so hard.We broke up naturally in the end, and I felt numb after coming to New Zealand and I didn't feel any sad when breaking up.Am I a *****?

　　My boy friend now is a New Zealand born Honkongese. He is kind of banana but he still can speak a little Catonese.I love him and he always take good care of him.Sometimes I will blame him for spoiling me so much. we like to tease each other and I am gonna marry him if nothing happens.I had enough from having the relationship and sich of it now. I'd rather get married with someone I love and then put my focus on my career.

　　步步今天写了很多冬冬，我觉得很多女孩子找外国男朋友is simply to show off，不是真爱就别在自己骗自己了，如果是真爱的话就别放弃，前提是要弄清楚那个黄毛是否也真爱你。